When people can’t get what they want, or feel they have been denied something they were entitled to receive, self pity is the next step. In self love we always want a good outcome and the best for ourselves. When it doesn’t happen we are tempted to indulge in self pity. Self pity opens the door to resentment, despair and an unwillingness to accept our life in the light of God’s objective truth. Self pity is the crutch of those unable to face the truth about themselves.
The Holy Spirit cannot fill a Christian who pities himself, because the Holy Spirit fills those who persevere in suffering and find joy in their misfortune. Consider this scripture:
Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. (Jam 1:2-4)
Clearly, self pity is a major block to spiritual growth and I believe there is nothing more grievous to the Spirit of God than a whining Christian. We are to be about allowing the Spirit to conform us into the image of Christ, which means we are to be changed in thought and deed to think as He thinks and do as He would do. There are no passages in the New Testament that present Jesus complaining about or bemoaning His experiences. Jesus just accepted the will of His Father and was obedient by faith. Christians involved in self pity can’t be filled by the Spirit and the ability of Christ to live out His life through them is thwarted.